Self Mastery is a concept that gets used often but what really is it? A form of self-control is the definition of this but do you know or have you experienced the embodiment of this? I have. It’s the most challenging thing you’ll go through but it shows you the deepest parts of you.
Mental Self- Mastery:
Mentally, you have to be conscious of everything you say. How you talk to yourself, how you talk to others. When you embody this you’ll not ever playfully say “you’re dumb” to someone. When I was younger I used to say this unintentionally, I am not perfect but growth has helped me learn how you truly have to be aware of everything you say to yourself and others whether that is out loud or in your head.
This is something that comes to me easily most of the time but have I had moments recently of it accidentally coming out? Yeah. It has but I have also found myself recently ensuring I correct others when I hear them say things like “I’m trash” or “I’m stupid. I correct them and say something like no, you just haven’t practiced that skill enough or no, you made a mistake but it doesn’t make you stupid.
Your words are important to be aware of at all times because it can either lift another up or tear them down and self-mastery is knowing how to uplift your self-talk too. When you make a mistake and say I’m dumb right after or like burning yourself and saying negative words, it’s important to immediately rewire that thought in the moment. Even if you only thought it in your head, rewire it to yourself quietly.
Energetic/Emotional Self-Mastery:
This concept ties to emotions by ensuring emotions do not consume you and you become aware of not reacting to things that may make you uncomfortable. My first time embodying this was in 2022. I had someone in my energy playing mind games with me. Sometimes they did things that hurt me or made me feel jealous. I know at times they were not aware of this and times they were. I’m intuitive and I could tell when it was done on purpose vs. when it wasn’t. The purposeful times they did it was because they wanted a reaction out of me which I didn’t give for a while, until I did. That’s for another post though. The way I handled the hurt and/or jealousy that would come up is I would sit with myself and breathe through the feeling for 5 to 10 minutes and hold my hands to my heart. Because the truth is, the moments that hurt when they were unaware was not that person’s fault. They simply made my triggers unfold and come up and I had to sit with and comfort myself. I had to look at the deeper root of the feelings coming up. That was no one’s job but my own to figure out and allow myself to work through it. This connection was a spiritual connection for me and when I tell you I’ve never been so triggered in my life but they had a purpose in my life regardless of how things ended. They helped me look at the deeper shadows of myself which a spiritual connection can do. They are meant to help you both grow but sometimes it doesn’t happen for the both of you if you are both not willing to look at your wounds. In this case, I was the only one working through my shit coming up. You are meant to allow feelings flow through you, allow yourself to feel, and work through it, because if I would have reacted to all those times that person hurt me intentionally or not it probably would have gotten really bad pretty fast. Energetic mastery is learning to not react, to stay detached. This doesn’t mean you don’t care, I cared more than ever before but it means you don’t blame the person for acting the way they are. This also doesn’t mean be passive, if it gets to a point where disrespect happens, that is when you walk away. Through this connection I learned it’s no one’s job to comfort your uncomfortable emotions if they have no idea you feel a certain way because of your wounds. This is energetic mastery.
Final Thoughts:
There are many people that will say that with your mental state you can control your emotions but many people say this in a way that suppresses what you feel when it comes up. I do not believe in that. All of us are meant to feel our feelings to allow ourselves to work through them. You will have positive emotions and negative emotions and that is simply part of the human experience and knowing you are alive and well. Mastering both is key this is true self-mastery.
Have you found yourself embodying self-mastery? If so, what did that look like for you?
If you haven’t had moments to tap into self-mastery, how do you think you’ll start moving forward?
Would love to hear your moments of growth or challenges with this topic.
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XOXO,
Rubi
